Preparing for a menopause appointment can feel like a big deal, but you’re already doing great just by thinking about it. Believe it or not, only about two-thirds of females aged 40 to 64 even bring up menopause and treatments during checkups. So, you’re already ahead of the game.
Taking a little time to get ready can make your 15-minute visit much more productive. We’re here to help with top questions to ask your doctor, plus what to bring, and what to expect.
Questions to ask your doctor about menopause
There’s no such thing as a “dumb” medical question when it comes to menopause. It’s normal to feel a little overwhelmed, so write down your top concerns before you go. Not sure what to ask? Here are questions to get you started.
1. “Am I in perimenopause or menopause? What signs should I look for?”
Common signs of perimenopause include irregular periods, hot flashes, and sleep disturbances. Your healthcare provider can learn a lot from your symptoms and age, but they might check hormone levels (like estradiol, follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), and luteinizing hormone (LH)) if there’s any doubt. Focus on your symptoms — they’re the best clue to what’s going on.
2. “What symptoms should I expect, and how can I manage them?”
Share everything you're experiencing, even if it seems unrelated. This can include hot flashes and night sweats, sleep issues, mood changes, vaginal dryness, joint pain, and heart palpitations. Being specific helps your doctor give you the best advice.
For a full list, check out What Are the Main Symptoms of Perimenopause and Menopause? to help you prepare for the conversation.
3. “What’s your experience treating menopausal patients? Do you frequently prescribe hormonal or non-hormonal therapies?”
Not every provider has training in menopause, and that’s okay! If you’re going to your OB-GYN for your annual exam, that’s a great place to start. But some patients need a deeper level of menopausal care and it’s okay to continue to go to your OB-GYN for your annual and see a separate provider for hormone management.
4. “What are my treatment options? Are there any supplements that could help my symptoms?”
Ask about all the ways to treat menopause symptoms. Your doctor can tell you about lifestyle changes, hormone therapy, and non-hormonal medications. Knowing your choices can help you feel more in control of your care.
5. Is hormone therapy right for me?
Menopause hormone therapy can be effective for certain menopause symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and vaginal dryness, but it’s not for everyone. Discuss the risks and benefits based on your personal and family health history, especially if there’s a history of heart disease or blood clots.
6. “What lifestyle changes could help during perimenopause?”
Small changes in diet and exercise can add up to major improvements in how you feel. Ask for practical tips that may help you feel better.
7. “How can perimenopause and menopause affect my mental well-being?”
Anxiety, mood swings, and even depression are common. Don’t hesitate to ask about support options if you’re struggling. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
8. “Is perimenopause or menopause something I should be worried about?”
Even if a symptom seems minor, bring it up. Many changes during perimenopause and menopause — like hot flashes, mood shifts, or cycle irregularities — are normal. Your healthcare provider can help you understand:
- What's part of the menopause transition.
- What’s worth keeping an eye on.
- What might need a closer look.
What to bring to your appointment
Showing up with a little prep work can help you get the most out of your visit. Here's what to bring:
- Symptom journal or list. Track how often symptoms happen, how severe they are, and any patterns you notice. For example: “Night sweats 4 times a week, worse after spicy food.” Pay attention to any symptoms and when they occur in relation to your period.
- Menstrual history. If you’re still having periods, note any changes in flow, timing, or intensity. A list of specific dates of your menstrual cycles can be helpful to your provider.
- List of medications and supplements. Include everything, even over-the-counter sleep aids or herbal remedies.
- Top questions. Keep them on your phone or a notepad. Brain fog can be a real thing, so having a list can help.
- Support person (optional). A friend or partner can help you remember information and advocate for your needs.
What to expect during the visit
You might feel a mix of relief (finally, help is here!) and nerves when you walk into the doctor’s office. Knowing what to expect can take some of the mystery and anxiety out of the experience. Here’s how an appointment might go:
- History review. Your provider may ask about your cycle, symptoms, family history, and medical background.
- Symptom discussion. Share what’s bothering you. Be honest and specific.
- Treatment options. Your doctor may discuss hormone therapy, medications, or lifestyle changes. Ask about the pros, cons, and follow-up plans.
- Physical exam (if needed). Depending on your last exam, this might include a pelvic or breast exam.
- Tests (if needed). Your doctor may suggest blood work, bone density scans, skin exams, or mammograms based on your age and symptoms.
Follow-up and next steps
Your care plan doesn’t end when the appointment does. After your visit:
- Start your care plan. Follow instructions for any new treatment and give it time to work.
- Track your progress. Continue your symptom journal and note what improves.
- Schedule a follow-up. Set a check-in date, usually 2-3 months after starting a new treatment.
- Ask questions later. If new concerns pop up, don’t wait for the next visit. Call or message your provider.
Where to find a menopause specialist near me
Not all providers specialize in menopause care. If you need more support, here’s how to find a menopause specialist near you:
- Use The Menopause Society directory. Their Find a Practitioner tool helps you find certified menopause care providers. Enter your location, filter by profession and distance, and get contact details and areas of expertise.
- Ask your current provider. Your primary care physician or OB-GYN can provide a referral.
- Explore telehealth. If you don’t see local options or want convenience, Versalie’s Menopause Care Directory connects you with menopause care providers who offer telehealth services.
Show up prepared, leave with a plan
It’s normal to have mixed feelings about your visit, but showing up informed means you're taking control of your health. Bring your questions, track your symptoms, and speak up about your concerns. Start with preparation, advocate for what you need, and keep asking questions. Your quality of life matters, and you deserve the best care possible.
FAQs
What if my doctor dismisses my symptoms?
If your provider brushes off your concerns, don’t hesitate to seek a second opinion from a menopause-certified specialist. Consider using The Menopause Society's directory to help you find one.
Can I bring up mental health during a menopause visit?
Absolutely. Emotional changes like anxiety, depression, and mood swings are common during menopause. It's important to talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
How often should I follow up after starting a new treatment?
Most providers recommend checking in after 2-3 months. But if you notice side effects or concerns sooner, reach out earlier.
